In life there's periods of bliss and sorrow. The same holds true in a relationship. Every relationship has its fair share of ups and downs. We hear stories about our grandparents and their friends who were able to stay together for many years - we ask ourselves... "How did they do it?"
In today's world however, when you hear of two people that have been together for five years you think to yourself..."wow that's a long time". More and more people are finding that long-term commitment is nothing more than a hopeful, yet unlikely scenario. Because of this, more hearts get broken and more people must learn how to endure the dreaded break-up.
Breaking up can carry some of the most painful emotions ever to be experienced by the human psyche. If you recently have had to go through this painful endeavor you know first hand how difficult it is. It can make you feel as though someone dearest to you has passed away. Yes, there is nothing quite as emotionally painful as being on the receiving end of a breakup.
Do what you must to help ease the pain. Whether this may include taking your frustrations out on a punching bag, pillow, or ripping up your ex's pictures, however make sure your actions are within reason of course.
When on the receiving end of a breakup it can be a difficult thing to not see or speak with your ex - you will want to more than anything, however you should absolutely have no contact! Do not attempt to visit, send emails, letters, or call your ex. Walk away with some self-dignity - giving your ex exactly what they want. Make it a clean break, and accept (as hard as it is) that it's over. Not contacting your ex after they have broken off with you will be something you will be thanking yourself for down the road.
Staying Mentally Tough
You must have extreme willpower and stay mentally strong. Thoughts of revenge or desperation may be going through your mind, however do not try to force yourself on your ex. It shows weakness and your ex will end up resenting you even more. Forcing yourself upon them, spreading rumors, betraying old secrets, or even finding a rebound date or relationship right away will all ruin the possible last ounce of care your ex may still feel; making you look pathetic. This will ruin any last chance at a possible friendship or even a rekindled flame down the road.
Act with class, and never resort to actions or behavior that could possibly get you in trouble, or that you will regret in the future. The best way to get even is to let your ex see that you are doing just fine without them while being alone. Show that you have focused your emotions into being productive.
Although your partner has broken off with you, this doesn't necessarily mean that they no longer care for you - they just either for the time being, or the long run, do not want a relationship with you. Acting in an un-classy manner just kills any feelings they may still have for you. The break-up might have been just as emotionally tough on them. The last thing you want to do is bring hatred upon yourself form your ex.
Quite often enough when a woman breaks up with a man it's been a long time in the works, possibly months. Most often, the man doesn't even see it coming and can have a hard time understanding how or why it happened. This is because it may seem to him as though she just woke up one morning and said it's over - no warning signs, communication...nothing. The reality is that women often get over their man and mourn the relationship while still involved in it. They move on once they're completely over everything - leaving the man stumbling and asking himself..."what happened?' This is why so many men are unable to just walk away with their dignity in tact. They feel they can still do something to get her back because they never saw the break-up coming in the first place. However, the truth is... she's probably been over you for months, so as hard as it is - walk away and mourn the loss in private.
Time to Heal
Whether man or woman, if you are enduring a breakup - cry your eyes dry, then get up, hold your head high, and have some self-confidence and pride - move on and be alone for a while. Give yourself time to heal - work on rebuilding the other aspects of your life. Call up old friends, or engage in activities that you enjoy, yet neglected because of the relationship.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel, you must believe and have faith - for tomorrow is a new day and a new beginning. Focus on your own life - be secure with yourself. Being secure with ones self and being "solid" while alone is the greatest thing in the world. You don't need just anybody, so don't settle or become desperate. The world is huge and there's so much more to life than the person who has broken off with you.
